Man’s head left hanging on by just his skin after he was internally decapitated in horror crash

'MOST BROKEN MAN'
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A MAN was told he was the most broken patient paramedics had ever seen after being internally decapitated in a car crash.
Simon Clark, now 45, suffered severe brain trauma, more than two dozen major fractures, multiple organ damage and tore a two inch hole in the main artery carrying blood from his heart.
Tragically the accident also claimed the life of his partner Lindy, who had been driving when their car swerved into the path of an oncoming car on a blind bend.
Simon doesn’t remember much more than a loud bang and intense pain in his left hip.
His next memory was of lying in the long grass with rain falling on his face.
“I took the full impact on my left side which is why I sustained so many broken bones,” he says.
“I shattered the top three vertebrae and completely separated my skull from my spine. My head was only held on by skin, muscle, nerves and other tissue. Basically, my head was flopping around like a chicken with its neck broken.”
Simon was put into a coma at the scene by the medics of the Great Western Air Ambulance and remembers nothing until two months later where he received the devastating news that the love of his life had died in the collision.
Paralysed and unable to speak, he was also told that he would never walk, eat or breathe independently again.
“I just had to lay there and listen to the never-ending horror story that was my prognosis,” he says.
“My brain was screaming at this point. I lurched from extreme survivor’s guilt to wanting to end it all.
“I even tried to bite my tongue off at one point but luckily I didn’t have the strength to do much more than make it very sore.
“The worst moments were lying in that hospital bed not long after leaving ICU, when all of the staff had finished for the day and my visitors had left.
“I would be left there in the dark, unable to move, unable to do anything for myself, barely able to speak. I had spent the majority of the day counting the dimples in the ceiling tiles and now I just had the beeping of the machines for company.”
Simon spent the long hours in total anguish and turmoil, wishing for death to take him.
“I truly wanted to die. Just to end the pain and torture of knowing my life was over and I’d never got to say goodbye to Lindy,” he says.
The cause of the crash in October 2019 will remain forever a mystery.
Police told Simon his partner was not speeding, had not been drinking and had done nothing suspicious.
They concluded it was a genuine accident and “just bad luck.”
Physically shattered and emotionally traumatised, he struggled to see any way forward.
But as the days and weeks wore on, Simon made a remarkable discovery.
He found that he could control his thoughts and in doing so, could decide to recover beyond a life of living in a hospital bed.
I made the firm decision that I would walk out of the hospital on my own two feet without any assistance, within six months of the accident
Simon Clark
“I decided I would not stop until I was fitter and stronger than I was before the accident. I made the firm decision that I would walk out of the hospital on my own two feet without any assistance, within six months of the accident,” he says.
Incredibly he did just that.
“I had nothing else to work with so I began to try and regain control of my mind,” he says.
“I didn’t have use of my body anymore so I had to try and save a tiny piece of Simon. I built a little fort in my mind where Simon could hide from all the horrible things that were happening.
“After many months of mental anguish and physical pain my body started to respond.
"At first it was just being able to blink, when I had mastered that I was able to communicate with my family by spelling out words by blinking while they ran their fingers along a board with letters printed on it.
"Then I moved on to trying to wiggle a finger, and then maybe move my foot. It was an incredibly slow, frustrating period of slowly trying to move every single limb and then building up the strength so I could use them.
"Learning to walk again has been the most painful of all of my recovery."
After he left hospital, Simon discovered Nordic Walking thanks to the help of his physiotherapist Melissa Domaile.
The method is an enhanced walking technique that uses poles to work your entire body not just your legs.
“So many physios told me all the things I would never do again,” he says.
“But Melissa took the time to get to know me and she saw my drive, she saw my love of the mountains and what I was willing to give to get back to them, to have a full and meaningful life again.
“Nordic Walking helped me walk a few paces without getting out of breath, which turned into walking around a football field then walking the Everest Base Camp Trail less than five years after the accident.”
He has also trekked the Icelandic Highlands, climbed Mount Toubkal in Northern Africa and is now training to walk to the North Pole, determined to show that recovery - while painful and slow - is possible in the face of overwhelming odds.
Simon, who had been working as an estate agent at the time of the crash, is still far from well. He is in constant pain, struggles with exhaustion and carries deep emotional scars from the accident.
He suffers from PTSD and crippling bouts of anxiety and depression, as well as nerve pain and brain damage.
“I still have a lot of problems with my heart and lungs,” he says.
“I’m working on about a third of my lung capacity and my heart beats frantically which can result in me passing out.
“I was warned by cardiologists not to let my heart rate go above 120 bpm as it will most likely cause a heart attack. Unfortunately just walking across a car park puts my heart above that.
“While training I am often in the 150-160 bpm range and on the way to Everest I pushed to 186 bpm.
“I will also need to travel to Svalbard very soon to do some cold weather testing and training to see how my body responds to extreme cold as I currently don’t feel any temperature changes. For me all weather conditions feel like spring.”
But Simon has to keep going. He knows moving his body is excellent therapy.
“The best recovery from all of this has been physical exercise, learning to get my life back and rebuilding my body, then simply just getting out into nature,” he says.
“A walk in the hills cures most problems and those that it can’t, it puts into perspective.”
Accessing and accepting support from others
It is very comforting to receive physical and emotional support from other people. It is important not to reject support by trying to appear strong, or trying to cope completely on your own.
Talking to others who have had similar experiences, or understand what you have been through, is particularly important - it can allow you to release pent up feelings and enable barriers to be removed and closer relationships to develop.
Some friends may be reluctant to push their support forward even though they would like to help - do not be afraid to ask and say what you want. Research has shown that social support and community networks are important and can facilitate psychological recovery.
Taking time out for yourself
In order to deal with your feelings, you will at times find it necessary to be alone, or just be with close friends or/and family.
Confronting what has happened
Confronting the reality of the situation, e.g. by talking to a friend, can (instead of will) help you come to terms with the event.
Staying active
Helping others, keeping busy, maintaining usual routines where possible can be helpful.
Returning to your usual routine
It is usually advisable to return to your usual routine as soon as possible after the event in order to avoid incubation and magnification of fear while away from the situation.
Source: NHS
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