What’s Considered Rude in the United States? A Traveler’s Guide.

When you picture the United States, you might think of New York’s bright lights or California beaches. It feels familiar because of Hollywood movies and American music on the radio. But once you get here, you quickly realize there’s plenty under the surface that isn’t obvious to visitors.

I’ve traveled through many states and met people from all walks of life. What’s considered rude or taboo in the U.S. sometimes surprises even me. These cultural stigmas often connect back to bigger ideas about privacy, fairness, independence, and respect.

If you’re heading to the United States for the first time, here are a few tips that might help you avoid awkward moments.

One thing I’ve noticed is how divided people feel about President Trump. For some Americans, it’s a topic they’d rather avoid entirely because it brings up arguments or feels embarrassing, especially when talking to people from other countries. Others remain strong supporters and feel defensive if the topic comes up.

Right now, Americans are still very divided. According to a Pew Research Center survey published in April 2025, only about 40 percent of people in the U.S. say they approve of the job Trump is doing, and many people around the world say they don’t trust his leadership.

In large U.S. cities and more liberal areas, people often feel uncomfortable or embarrassed about how the world views the U.S. after he took office again. In conservative regions, you’ll find folks who speak about him with pride. I’ve found it’s best to steer clear of bringing up the Trump administration unless you already know where someone stands. Even casual jokes or comments can lead to tense conversations.

Travel Tip: Let locals lead the conversation if politics comes up. If you’re not sure how someone feels, it’s okay to keep your thoughts private.

This one often trips up many travelers. In the U.S., tipping isn’t a bonus for exceptional service. It’s built into how people make a living. Many service workers, like restaurant staff, earn a low hourly wage that falls short of the minimum wage. Tips make up the rest of their income.

Not tipping can be seen as deeply rude because it leaves workers underpaid. Even a small tip is better than none. Americans often see tipping as a sign of respect for someone’s effort and time.

It’s not just restaurants. Hair salons, taxi drivers, hotel housekeepers, and delivery drivers often expect tips as well.

Travel Tip: At restaurants, aim for 15 – 20% tip of the bill. For other services, a few dollars or about 10 – 15 % is common.

Americans are often labeled as friendly and open, but they’re surprisingly protective of personal space. In the U.S., people might step back if you stand too close. It’s nothing personal. It’s about comfort and feeling like you have your own bubble.

Part of this stems from the way American culture values independence. People grow up believing that individuals should have control over their own space and bodies. Being too close can feel intrusive or even threatening, especially in cities where strangers cross paths all day.

In a busy place like New York City, people expect you to keep moving and not crowd others. In smaller towns, folks might be more forgiving but still like a comfortable distance when chatting.

Travel Tip: Leave about an arm’s length of space when talking to new people. A friendly smile goes further than surprise hugs.

Money can feel like a taboo subject in the United States. Asking someone how much they earn, what they paid for their house, or how much their clothes cost often makes people squirm.

There’s a reason for this. In the U.S., money and personal success are closely linked. People might fear being judged for earning too little or showing off if they earn a lot. Talking openly about wealth can feel boastful, while asking about it can feel intrusive. It’s a tricky balance.

In many other cultures, chatting about finances is completely normal. But in the United States, it’s best to let people volunteer this information rather than asking outright.

Travel Tip: Avoid discussing personal finances unless someone brings it up first.

In some cultures, staring is considered normal and is often a part of people-watching. In the U.S., it’s frequently read as a challenge or unwanted romantic interest and considered rude.

Americans like their privacy, even in crowded places. Maintaining prolonged eye contact with strangers can feel aggressive or intrusive.

Travel Tip: Eye contact is fine, especially during conversations, but staring at someone without speaking makes people uneasy.

Americans can be chatty, but they generally prefer not to hear strangers’ phone conversations in public places like restaurants or waiting rooms.

Talking loudly or on speaker phone in these spaces feels disrespectful because it forces everyone else to share in your private business. It disrupts the shared public space.

Travel Tip: Keep your voice low in public, or step outside for longer calls.

Waiting your turn is serious business in the United States. Cutting in line is one of the quickest ways to make someone angry. Americans view lines as a symbol of fairness, where everyone waits equally, regardless of their status.

Travel Tip: Always look for the end of the line. Asking, “Is this the line for…” is polite and helps avoid confusion.

The United States is large. Customs vary depending on the location. What feels normal in New York City might seem out of place in a small town in the Midwest. In the South, people might be more polite and chatty. On the West Coast, things often feel relaxed and casual.

Travel Tip: Paying attention to how locals behave goes a long way. Watch how people greet each other, how loudly they speak, and how personal conversations get. When in doubt, it’s fine to ask politely.

Even if you make a mistake, most Americans won’t hold it against you. People generally understand that travelers may be unfamiliar with their traditions and customs. If you apologize and show that you’re trying to learn, you’ll likely be met with kindness.

The U.S. may seem familiar on the surface, but these subtle cultural details can significantly shape your travel experience. Knowing what’s considered rude helps you connect better with locals and avoid misunderstandings.

If you’re traveling to the U.S. soon, I hope these tips come in handy. Safe travels.